If you have grandparents who are struggling with illness or old age, it can be difficult to convince them that some changes in the house could benefit them. I have personal experience with this and after much debating, my almost ninety year old grandparents finally made some changes around the home which simply made their lives easier. I can’t imagine what it is like to be of that age, I imagine though that I too would be quite resistant to change, and stubborn with it. In spite of this however, I do feel that it is our responsibility as children and grand-children, that we do all that we can to make their lives easier, and here is how I suggest you could go about it.
Prices and Cost
Many think that the best course of action is to show the benefits of various aids around the home, before speaking about how much it will cost, for me however this is back to front. When you do this, your grandparents will have a surprise waiting for them at the end, as they will already have a figure in their head, whether it is a good or bad surprise is a risk which you have to run. For me the best bet is to decide how much we have to play with, what grants and support there may be available, and then look at what improvements can be made.
Showing the Benefits
If you are able to show your grandparents the benefits which this type of assistance can have, it will go some way in convincing them that they should make the change. For example after telling my granny that a stairlift could help in the home, I took her to a local conservative club which was fitted with one, she soon changed her mind after seeing how easy and smooth getting up and down stairs was. If you have the chance to show off the benefits first, take it with both hands.
Your voice alone won’t be able to convince someone who is stubbornly against what you are offering, so it is important that you have the support of the full family behind you. This may feel as though you are bullying your grandparents but this is not the case at all, you are simply helping to convince them that they would benefit from these aids.
When you begin this effort, make sure that you are only discussing things which will directly benefit their lives. For example my Grampy can no longer get in and out of a bathtub, but he can still take a shower, so getting him to invest in a walk-in bath makes little sense. Look at what areas they have difficulty with, and then focus solely on the aids and gadgets which can help them to live an easier and more comfortable life.
Whilst the journey can be tough, it will be well worth your efforts, and your grandparents will be able to reap the benefits from your actions, once you have convinced them of course!